WHEN NUMBING BECOMES NORMAL - HABITS, DISTANCE AND FADING CLOSENESS
About emotional patterns and the quiet loss of connection
Volume 2 of the series "Between the Years
A man and a woman stand by the pool.
A glass in their hands.
A smile on their faces.
In the background, someone falls into the water.
A brief moment.
Then everything continues.
Nothing seems out of balance.
And that is exactly the point.
The joint in the evening.
The glass of wine to wind down.
Sugar, distraction, functioning.
And the question of what is actually hidden beneath it.
This book is about habits, numbing in everyday life, adaptation, control, inner restlessness, stress, overwhelm and the quiet loss of connection.
For people who sense that something is not right – even though everything looks normal.
For readers who want to understand how numbing, habits and unconscious patterns work in everyday life.
Book 2 of the series “Between the Years” about the silent drugs of everyday life.
This book is not about the substance.
It is about the system behind it:
✔ Why comparison creates inner unrest
✔ Why ambition drives and at the same time creates distance
✔ Why pleasure works immediately – and triggers repetition
✔ Why habits become stronger than intention
✔ Why sugar, alcohol, nicotine, marijuana and distraction work
✔ Why numbing does not arise from weakness – but from normality
✔ Why stress, pressure and social expectations shape behaviour
✔ Why self-control is limited
„WHEN NUMBING BECOMES NORMAL“ is now available at Amazon.
WHAT YOU WILL FIND IN THIS BOOK
• habits, repetition and unconscious patterns in everyday life
• stress, overwhelm and mental strain in modern life
• comparison, social pressure and orientation toward the outside
• consumption, distraction and functioning without collapse
• emotional distance and the quiet loss of connection
• self-deception, adaptation and inner disconnection
• automatisms, routines and unconscious behaviour
• inner clarity, responsibility and awareness
WHAT THIS BOOK CAN GIVE YOU
• clarity about what is really happening in your everyday life
• a calm understanding without self-judgement
• recognising your own patterns without changing them immediately
• a sense of relief – because much is not personal failure
• more distance from automatic reactions and habits
• a new awareness of closeness, distance and inner restlessness
• orientation without pressure, without method, without system
WHAT THIS BOOK IS NOT
• not a guide
• not therapy
• not a step-by-step instruction
This book does not explain things in a classical sense.
It describes how patterns emerge, how repetition replaces decisions and why willpower matters – but is not endlessly available.
No guide.
No recipes.
But a clear look at what many are already living through.
Book 2 builds on Book 1 and deepens the mechanics of numbing in everyday life.
All four books can be read independently.
THE SERIES
DRUGS OF EVERYDAY LIFE – BOOK 1
Why we believe we have everything under control. And why that is not true.
WHEN NUMBING BECOMES NORMAL – BOOK 2
Habits, Distance and Fading Closeness.
WHEN NOTHING NUMBS ANYMORE – BOOK 3
Orientation in an overstimulated world. How to remain steady when nothing protects you anymore.
AFTER THE NOISE – BOOK 4
About life after the illusion. Not everything was wrong. But much was noise.
Bernhard Christoph Lichtinger writes books drawn from lived experience, from setbacks, detours, new beginnings and encounters that never needed to be invented. His stories begin where real life leaves its mark.